The ladies, still women **
by Stéphanie Chuat and Véronique Reymond
Screening at 7 p.m. on www.25th hour, followed by a debate with the directors
At first glance, the title seems strange: why should “ladies” over 60 no longer be women? Would we feel the need to stress that “gentlemen” of the same age group are still men? Let us admit that it is a question of responding to a too widespread vision in order to better counter it. On the Swiss shore of Lake Geneva, the documentary focuses on several sixties and seventies who are widowed, divorced or single.
After forty-eight years of marriage, the smart wife of a pastor who died a year earlier finds herself attractive at 72, which unsettles her. ” This is what Calvinist education is », She underlines half-amused, half-bitter. Left by her partner, another regrets the time lost in her life entirely devoted to her children and her home. “My husband was in charge of everything else. I went from a life of a little princess to a daily life where I have to fend for myself. He will have to seek other reasons for being than to serve his own.
The male gaze always sought after
At the center of the remarks, appear the men: the deceased spouses who miss and yet also leave by their absence an unprecedented freedom; the male gaze, too often the only guarantee of their value for these women made invisible by their age. Where to find the men? They hardly ever go to places where they are sociable, such as dance or theater clubs. Passionate about nature and photography, a physiotherapist, whose two brothers committed suicide two decades apart, is looking for a company ” fraternal In a small circle of hunters.
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As for dating sites, we still have to accept the possibility of failure, which is not accepted by a former journalist who is delighted with her professional trajectory but is sorry for her emotional life. In search of a friend on the Web, an enthusiastic septuagenarian begins a luminous romantic relationship, to be lived all the more intensely as she now knows the time is running out.
Juxtaposition of testimonies, The ladies, still women has the immense merit of giving a voice to those who are largely absent from the media, films and literature. He draws some endearing paths of self-conquest and independence. Too bad, however, that he hardly cares about representativeness by restricting his field only to wealthy and attractive women as if they alone had the right of citizenship.